When you are determining the direction you want to take your life, beginning with defining your values will act as an internal compass. Defining those values can be challenging though when you just aren’t sure about exactly what you want and the direction you want your life to take.
To begin with, choose 3-5 values that truly matter to you. Consider values such as your faith, health, family, integrity and write a one-sentence definition of each and why they are important to you. Then write a sentence for each value that includes actionable steps you can take. For example, if you decide your health is important to you, actionable steps can be to establish a consistent routine of exercise that includes cardio and strength training with a minimum number of days and time per week. Use these values as your decision compass: when options conflict, ask which choice preserves your core values.
Then craft a 6–12 month outcome statement using this formula: “In X months I will [specific accomplishment] so that I can [benefit], measured by [indicator].” Keep it concrete and measurable (roles, habits, metrics, feelings). This statement helps you to establish a vision for yourself that is specific, measurable and aligns with the values you have determined.
Next, determine your non-negotiables..specific boundaries you will defend no matter what happens. Staying on the example of health, your boundary may be that no matter what, I’ll walk for at least 30 minutes a day. When you create a non-negotiable, you are creating discipline. You are saying this “will” be done and when you do that, you may also be saying “no” to something such as scrolling endlessly. Rather than mindless scrolling, you are replacing that time with an activity aligns with your value of health.
Establishing clarity and defining your values is about living intentionally. Rather than living by default, you are living by design. The hardest part is often the beginning, but when you align your actions with your values, the path forward becomes much narrower and much more fulfilling.
